“Exit Light, Enter Night
Take my hand, Off to Never Never Land”
Enter Sandman, Metallica
I had an epiphany Saturday night. I’m still waiting for my editor extraordinaire to go through the Cloud Diver with the fine toothed comb. (the beatings will begin shortly) so with nothing major to do, I went to a party of a friend of mine.
It was good for a while. I learned a card game called golf and watched a guy who I will generously describe as a dickhead show up with a pretty girl. The host and his girl aside, I really felt like I didn’t fit in with this crew and I was trying to figure out why as more and more people arrived.
I got to talk to said pretty girl a little bit about her life and what she did. It turns out she was my age. She had lost her dad and was still in great pain about that – she was thinking about finally doing some things she always wanted to do. I was the same age, and in a lot of ways I have done a lot of the things she has aspired to do already.
The epiphany hit me. I didn’t belong at this party. I wasn’t this person. I just bailed. I didn’t say goodbye, because then I might have been talked to stay. I didn’t want to stay. I wanted to do the things that I feel called to do.
This has been a year where I feel like I’ve been separated from a lot of people I know. Friends I’ve known for a long time aren’t in my life so often. It used to bother me a lot earlier this year. Now I’ve embraced that this is just a natural part of life.
The next day I did a hell of a conversation with Tim Reynolds. Tim impressed the heck out of me at When Words Collide as we met and finally got a chance to chat. (That is going to be a hell of a conversation when it debuts on the podcast. Tim is awesome.) When I talked to him about this he had a great concept about this.
He called this spot never never land.
Never never land is a great place. One of the interesting things about it is that people stop aging. They stop maturing at some point and stay as old as they are. The analogy is that some people choose stillness instead of movement.
Life is change. Upon reflection of Peter Pan, I have to say that my favorite character in the story is Captain Hook. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to be Hook. Hook lived the kind of life I wouldn’t want to live. That said, he lived a life. The hook is a story in itself, but he also captained a ship and sailed the seas. In never never land, he may be the only character that had dared to live. He had been through change and it had made him who he chose to be.
I’ve never stopped. When I came back from Arizona, I realized something and it has stuck with me this whole time. We don’t have a lot of time. We really don’t. Life is a blink of an eye. We only have so many moments to do things. We should take advantage of the opportunities.
We shouldn’t waste our time staying in never land. We need to be like Captain Hook. We need to do the things that make us come alive. We need to be in the places that make us shine. We need to do the the things that make that passion burn.
We all got to keep going with our lives. Life changes constantly and we all got to move in the directions we are going for. We all got our roads to walk and places to travel. We all choose who we become. When we make those choices, we leave some people to go their own way. Life is an ocean with infinite streams, and we all go into the directions we are called for.
I hope I never find my way to never, never land. I hope I keep changing. I got people to meet, and things to do. My life is going in the right direction, It’s time to let that passion be my pixie dust, and use that to fly into new frontiers.
“Don’t be afraid to grow up, Peter. It’s only a trap if you forget how to fly.”
― Jorge Enrique Ponce,