Before we begin the blog, gotta say I’m really proud of two things. The first is I have a youtube channel now. Hooray right? Right as I type this thirty some odd episodes are up there for you to listen to. My channel is here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBr8pyMELcMcaHLd4qTWyaw
Watch and let me know what you think.
The other thing? I got to talk to a comic book legend in JM Dematteis. Been a big fan of his since his Silver Surfer run and have read a lot of his material since.
The episode is here. I also read a bit of The Cloud Diver at the end of episode.
Cool right? On to the blog.
There is no guaranteed path to success. I’m not saying that this will insure that you will always achieve your desired outcome. Success and failure have no assurances.
I have a friend who has this cynical view of dreams coming true. “You can be anything you want to be,” he says in that sarcastic tone. There’s a tinge of sadness every time he says this. A friend of mine I haven’t talked with for a long, long time finished the thought.
“..If you’re good enough.”
It’s a very unspoken part of the sentence. Not many people say it, but a lot of people believe it. That’s the problem.
I don’t know about you but that images pisses me off.
But we all feel this way sometimes. Not good enough for that girl, that job, that career, whatever. We beat ourselves most of the time when we think like that. Our minds are powerful. If we tell ourselves we can’t do something, we can’t do it. With very few exceptions.
Thing is, can’t do it is in our heads a lot. One of the most important lessons of my life involved my dad. At eight years old, he took me to Fanshawe Park. There we walked along the stream and then, for whatever reason, decided to scale the hill. I was eight and little and small and looked at this hill with dread. To be honest, I didn’t want to do it.
Dad scaled the thing with ease, which meant I had to try. The first time, I fell…well, more like skidded down the hill. I really didn’t want to climb the thing again. Dad encouraged me. I on the other hand, discouraged myself.
“I can’t do it.” I said to myself. I kept climbing, saying that mantra over and over again. To my surprise, somehow I found myself on the top of the hill.
This is one of my most important lessons. Can’t is a concept. Worth is a concept. Deserving is also a concept. Life is inherently unfair and that isn’t exactly a bad thing.
That hill taught me that I can do anything and that confidence carries me into situations sometimes I had no idea what exactly I am doing. (My career can be described in jumping into situations I had no idea what I was doing, but whatever.)
But there are no guarantees. Success and failure are possible outcomes. That said, ninety percent of all your battles are just one thing, and that’s this: If you want something and you want the best chance to succeed at getting it, show up and take action.
It sounds simple. In essence that’s what you do when you go to work, that’s what you do when you go on a date, that’s what you do when you choose to do anything. Show up and do something. There are no guarantees after that, but really, that’s ninety percent of the work with anything.
Don’t let those negative thoughts beat you. Just do the above paragraph. Show up and deal with the task in front of you. Every task in life is just those two things. You are big enough, brave enough, smart enough, and capable of doing anything if you just do those two things.
Show up, and do the work. And don’t let any voice in your head tell you that you can’t do it. Don’t sabotage yourself. Because, why not you?